Language plays a huge part in how we understand and describe the world around us, and how we communicate that understanding to others. Because of this, it can be easy to forget that the dictionary isn’t some infallible, unchangeable document handed down from on high—…
Awesome piece on gender & pronouns by Autostraddle-extraordinaire Cara Giamo, written for The Parents Project.
“The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything.”—
Kristin:when my parents came to visit my college i had a hickey
Kristin:and my mom saw it and was like 'are you using protection'
Dannielle:hahahahhahahahah stop hhahahhaha no lololollol stop i hate it but i love it
Kristin:parents are so good at stuff. but to be fair...i do understand that, as a grown woman, you'd ASSUME that you only get a hickey whilst fucking bc its the only time you lose awareness of your self enough to be like...
Kristin:WHY DONT YOU SUCK HERE FOR TEN MINUTES so like
Kristin:in retrospect i get it but at the time i was like
Kristin:OBVIOUSLY THIS HAPPENED ON A DANCE FLOOR WITH A SHIRTLESS BOY WHOSE NAME I NEVER GOT, MOM
Dannielle:HAHABAHABAHABAH STOP IT LOLOL
Kristin:and he was in high school
Dannielle:write a memoir now
Kristin:visiting the campus so
Dannielle:HAHAH OF COURSE HE WAS LOLOLOLL SHUT UP OLOLL
Kristin:my roommates and i referred to him for ever after as 'no face no name college'...wait no 'no shirt no name no college.' he had a face
Dannielle:LOLOL omg this is ugh. i hate when you tell me stories and they're not like on a podcast
Kristin:hahahahahahaha. just remember to bring it up when we are on NPR
Dannielle:"why did you write this book" // "well. kristin got a hickey let's start there'
“It’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you’re ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any.”—Hugh Laurie (via larmoyante)
by Dannielle Owens-Reid and Kristin Russo, co-founders of The Parents Project —
When your child first comes out to you, you may feel taken by surprise, or confused by what it all means. In those initial days, weeks, or months after your child has come out, you may find yourself placing blame on…